Monday, October 25, 2010
The following was presented at a lunchean for the Crossroads Worship Conference in Sioux City, IA on October 23, 2010.
Then the mother of James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to Jesus with her sons. She knelt respectfully to ask a favor. “What is your request?” he asked.
She replied, “In your Kingdom, please let my two sons sit in places of honor next to you, one on your right and the other on your left.”
But Jesus answered by saying to them, “You don’t know what you are asking! Are you able to drink from the bitter cup of suffering I am about to drink?”
“Oh yes,” they replied, “we are able!”
Jesus told them, “You will indeed drink from my bitter cup. But I have no right to say who will sit on my right or my left. My Father has prepared those places for the ones he has chosen.”
When the ten other disciples heard what James and John had asked, they were indignant. 25 But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must become your slave. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
The Kingdom of God turns the world’s system topsy-turvy. It is a new lens. Look at the beatitudes. (Matthew 5:2-10) They’re counterintuitive to how the world views things. That’s because our world is upside-down. Jesus came to “put the world to rights.”
I recall one of the very early praise and worship songs put it this way: “If you want to be great in God’s Kingdom, learn to be the servant of all.” (Michael Ryan, Maranatha! Music, 1975) The foundation of effective leadership in God’s Kingdom – not the world’s standards, but God’s countercultural standards – is cultivating the heart and actions of a servant. As I’ve prepared this little reflection on leadership in the church, I’ve been able to identify at least twelve that have made a difference in my experience.
TWELVE “RULES TO LIVE BY” FOR SERVANT LEADERSHIP IN THE CHURCH
1. Treat those you lead as you want to be treated. (Golden Rule!)
I’m amazed at how many in ministry do not seemingly get this. The Golden Rule applies to your actions and to your thoughts. Do you want people talking negatively about you behind your back? Then you don’t do it. Do you want to be treated with respect? Then treat all with respect. Do you want your full potential to be realized? Then with all that is within your power, draw the potential of people out and empower them. This rule is also a good check on your own wrestling with attitudes about people in authority over you. How would you like the people who you lead to think of you? Then think the same of your leaders.
2. Be organized – plan in advance.
When you don’t, you disempower people – especially musicians who need time to prepare and practice. I think I am organized by nature. But I didn’t operate that way when I first got out of school. I loved the adventure of solving last-minute crises and improvising on the spot. But I got slapped down pretty hard when I found that people who were critical to the success of my enterprise were not available because I did not ask them in time. Ouch! Learned the hard way. But as I’ve journeyed through my vocation as a pastor and leader I have found that being organized is one of the best ways that I empower others to do a good job. If you are not organized, it isn’t cute. Get organized so that your people can flourish.
3. If you are physically able, do the “grunt work” with your people.
This is counter to most leadership models that I’ve seen in the church. When I do see it, I am impressed. There is, of course, balance in this. Don’t value this rule simply because you can’t delegate. And don’t shirk other leadership duties such as interaction with people because you have to clean up the stage. But don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. Jesus washed the disciples’ feet. I have found that doing physical work alongside my teammates nurtures great morale for the group. I loved working with the tech crew of the Living Christmas Tree and they enjoyed me. I’m convinced it was because I was willing to invest time and physical effort in working with them. Cultivate a blue-collar work ethic and you will be surprised by the loyalty that it will inspire.
4. Be a life-long learner.
I can’t emphasize this too much. Model what you expect from others. Do you want them to learn and grow? You must do the same. Be a reader. Hone your craft. Be up-to-date. I started playing praise and worship songs in the 1970’s. At that time, the songs were a bit more folk-oriented and you could easily play them on piano or guitar. It didn’t really matter that much. In the eighties, I was influenced a lot by Hosanna’s Integrity Music, which was primarily piano-driven. I did well because that was my instrument. Since I also never really had a good bass player until my son came along, I pretty much did everything from the piano – harmony, drove the rhythm, and laid down the bass line. But things have changed since the eighties and early nineties. I’ve finally had good bass players, so I’ve adjusted my left-hand technique to stay out of their way. And I’ve also started to work with decent rhythm guitar players, so I’m not driving the rhythm anymore. I’ve also discovered that the acoustic guitar and the mid-range of the piano where I like to play share the same sonic space. I’ve moved a lot of my piano technique away from there, too. Many of you know that the majority of new praise and worship songs are guitar-driven. So I’m also learning acoustic guitar and I fill in from time to time on the bass. You can teach an old dog new tricks. The big 5-0 was a number of years ago for me. If you want to be relevant – which is the theme of this conference – you’ve gotta keep learning.
5. Treat administrative assistants and custodians as equals.
Value them. Cultivate friendships with them. This rule harkens back to the Golden Rule. Cultivating friendships with these folks is very enriching. Unfortunately, sometimes relationships with other church leaders (especially if you are professional staff) can be strained because it seems that you are competing with them for budget dollars, volunteers, or rooms. That kind of relational dynamic is not the case with administrative assistants and custodians. You have the opportunity to build a relationship without that kind of baggage. If you are the leader, you are in the position of power and authority. It is up to you to initiate if you want to cultivate these valuable relationships. If you ask them to do something for you or your ministry, empower them. Make sure your instructions are clear. Give them appropriate time to do the task. And meet the deadlines that they request. If you are pressing them in a time crunch, help them get it done. From time to time, work alongside them to assist them. You’ll cultivate loyalty in the very folks from whom you need it most.
6. Use temperament profiles wisely in your personal interaction with others.
By temperament profiles, I mean the Myers-Briggs personality profile, the DISC© profile, or any other personality inventory that seeks to understand people. Interact with those you lead according to their temperament. For example: in the Myers-Briggs profile you have thinkers and feelers. For thinkers – get right to the point. For feelers – assess the feeling tone and nuance your words so that they will be received. Basically, speak their language. (For a self-assessment using the Myers-Briggs profile, visit www.humanmetrics.com and click on the “Jung Typology” link.)
7. Honor people’s time.
This is admittedly cultural. Not all cultures around the world are as tightly wound as ours. But in most Western cultures, time is one of the most precious commodities. So value their time. It is essential if you want to be a servant in our time-conscious culture. Start on time. End on time. When you don’t honor time commitments, you dishonor them and, in a sense, steal something very precious from them: time that could have been spent with loved ones, personal refreshment, sleep, or a host of other worthwhile pursuits. If you have to go over time, ask permission. Grant permission to leave at the appointed time if people have other commitments.
8. Listen to them.
Give eye contact. Learn how to receive criticism without being defensive. This is one of my biggest challenges because I want people to understand what I’m trying to do. But when we are defensive, we put up barriers in our relationships. Even more, if we have a pattern of defensiveness, we may never hear criticism that we really need to hear. Defensiveness usually belies inner weakness.
9. Be quick to say you’re sorry when you’re wrong.
This rule is probably one of the easiest to do and will bring immediate positive results. When you are wrong and will not admit it, you empower those who resist your leadership and you help recruit others to their point of view. Don’t allow that kind of negative leverage against you. Admitting your weaknesses without false humility is being authentic. It will cultivate strong relationships and, in resolving interpersonal tensions, it is a wise strategy.
10. Affirm before you criticize.
When people pour out their lives in an endeavor, personal criticism can injure the spirit and demotivate them. Always affirm their value and positive contributions before you offer criticism. You’ll find a much more receptive audience. Isn’t that how you would like to be corrected?
11. Cultivate genuine affection for those you lead.
I discovered this secret to ministry about fifteen years ago. When I was younger, I was intent on changing the world, changing the church. I still have a strong spirit and calling as a renewalist. But along the way, I discovered the joy of really liking the people that I led. I began to see them as family and friends, rather than tools or obstacles in my quest to move the church forward. I believe my change in attitude made a big difference especially in how I led them publically from the platform. The value of this rule was impressed upon me several years ago when I was mentoring a young man in worship leadership. He was getting very frustrated with some of the responses or lack of response that he perceived from the congregation. He was ready to quit. I asked him if he loved the people. “That’s easy. We have to do that.” “ Yes, but do you like them?” He had a hard time with that question, but he eventually admitted that he didn’t like them at all. (I love this about the Millenials. Typically, very honest.) I encouraged him to develop an affection for the people. Paul felt that way about the church in Philippi: “…for you have a very special place in my heart.” (Philippians 1:7) Affection for your people is the mark of a mature servant-leader.
Jesus modeled servant-leadership to his disciples. Servant leadership should not only be the standard for ministry leadership, but it is a powerful way for leaders in the secular marketplace to distinguish themselves and shine the countercultural light of the Gospel. Several years ago we lived in Portland, Oregon. Lyle Fisher was one of my good friends at our church. He was the church administrator and had recently retired from management in the well-known electronics company: Intel. While there, Lyle began to incorporate servant-leadership principles that he had seen modeled in Christ’s life. Over time, he saw the productivity of his department more than double. Under his servant-leadership style, they became one of the most productive departments in the company. Servant-leadership empowers people to reach their full potential, whether in the church or in the workplace. As Christ’s followers, helping people to become all that God designed them to be should be our first priority as leaders.
12. Live in a covenant of love.
Finally, all of these rules, and more, presuppose that we follow Christ’s command to love one another. If you are unclear about what that looks like, read I Corinthians 13:
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
I Corinthians 13: 4-7, The Message
The following was presented as a message for an all-city worship gathering at Sioux City, IA on October 24, 2010.
When I was asked to be a part of this conference several months ago, I was very pleased. I think you’ve got a really good thing going here in Sioux City – doing a worship conference primarily with local folks. The value of building relationships and learning from people in other churches and denominations is no small ideal. I would love to do something similar in Sioux Falls.
But when I learned that the theme of the conference was to help churches be more relevant in their worship, I had conflicting feelings. On the one hand, God has put me in a position to witness tremendous changes in the church since I began music and worship ministry back in the 1970’s. Most of those changes have occurred through the church’s pursuit of relevance and resonance with the changing culture. I believe that some of the changes that we’ve made have moved the church forward. The biggest positive that I see is that Evangelicals are now talking about corporate worship over a broad scale. Prior to the late twentieth century, corporate worship wasn’t a primary topic of interest for us. But as I consider where we’ve come, I also believe that our hot pursuit of relevance without reflection has weakened the Church. So I approach this topic of relevance from a critical, but hopefully, redemptive posture.
Relevance isn’t the problem. If we define relevance as “the quality of relating to a matter in hand with pertinence and appropriateness,” then the followers of Jesus should be, of all people, the most relevant (Os Guinness, Prophetic Untimeliness, 12). He is the same, yesterday, today, and forever. Relevance is essential to the Mission of God. But seeking relevance for its own sake and without careful reflection is a cultural trap that can endanger the essence of the Gospel. Evangelicals have been all too prone to step into it. Since we’ve jumped on the relevance bandwagon, we need to carefully consider where it might be taking us.
DANGERS IN PURSUING RELEVANCE:
In Exodus 32:1-6, we find the well-known story of the people of God really messing things up by making and worshipping a golden calf. A close reading of it, however, reveals an appropriate warning regarding our pursuit of cultural relevance:
When the people saw that Moses was so long in coming down from the mountain, they gathered around Aaron and said, "Come, make us gods who will go before us. As for this fellow Moses who brought us up out of Egypt, we don't know what has happened to him."
Aaron answered them, "Take off the gold earrings that your wives, your sons and your daughters are wearing, and bring them to me." So all the people took off their earrings and brought them to Aaron. He took what they handed him and made it into an idol cast in the shape of a calf, fashioning it with a tool. Then they said, "These are your gods, O Israel, who brought you up out of Egypt."
When Aaron saw this, he built an altar in front of the calf and announced, "Tomorrow there will be a festival to the LORD." 6 So the next day the people rose early and sacrificed burnt offerings and presented fellowship offerings. Afterward they sat down to eat and drink and got up to indulge in revelry.
Most of us know that story well, but have you ever considered that the people genuinely thought that they were worshipping Yahweh by making and giving homage to the golden calf? Notice in verse five that Aaron declares “Tomorrow there will be a festival to the LORD.” That’s a specific reference to Yahweh. Realize that these people had not known the God of their fathers, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob for generations. Their experience with the Exodus out of Egypt and the beginning of their journey through the desert had just begun. They had been surrounded by a culture of idols and they were just doing what they had been conditioned to do in worship. What they did was entirely consistent with their culture. They were…relevant! But they were dead wrong…literally, for about 3,000 of them.
There is a powerful warning for those of us who lead the Church in her worship in this story. We must remember that it is God who prescribes how we worship. We must be clear that our worship honors the God of Scripture and history rather than some other cultural idol of distraction. Christian corporate worship does the Story of God. We must be sure that the Gospel we celebrate in our gatherings is faithful to Scripture and the faith passed down to us by those who have come before us. We like to say that we are faithful to Scripture, but we tend to be dismissive of tradition – of those who have come before us. That’s a problem and I’ll address that in a moment.
But I have another concern regarding our pursuit of relevance. It doesn’t take a university study funded by research grants to tell us that our culture is obsessed with the young. We don’t even need George Barna. It’s all around us. Our advertisements, our music, our cosmetics - good grief – even the development of Viagra is symptomatic of our aversion to old age. And the Church has followed the same path of youthful orientation since the middle of the twentieth Century. Since that time we’ve seen the rise of youth-oriented para-church ministries such as Youth for Christ and Young Life, and in the church, youth ministers. Most obvious, is that the music of the church has changed to accommodate youthful tastes. A former colleague has labeled this the “juvenilization of ministry.” And much of this is a positive development for the Kingdom of God. It is in childhood or adolescence that most people make the life-choice to follow Christ. It is right to give a good deal of attention to our youth, since they will be carrying the Mission forward. But the danger in fully accommodating ministry and the Gospel to a youth-obsessed culture is that our growth and maturity in Christ will be stunted. The church will be like the Corinthians, of which Paul said, “…when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would mature Christians. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in the Christian life.” (I Corinthians 3:1) I’m afraid that for the American Evangelical church, that indictment rings all too true. And much of the cause is that we have accommodated all to easily to a youth-oriented culture without carefully reflecting on what we were doing.
Now there is, of course, another side to this equation. We can be an impediment to the Gospel by being irrelevant. I think the biggest example of having blinders to cultural changes was the Roman Catholic Church prior to the Reformation. Martin Luther did not act in a vacuum. The culture was changing radically in the early sixteenth century. The Renaissance was in full bloom and people were beginning to think for themselves. Belief based solely on Church councils and papal declaration which the people were obligated to believe was eventually going to be challenged. Church leaders were obsessed with their political power and mired in moral compromise. They had their head in the sand and missed what God was doing in the hearts and minds of the people. There is no virtue in being irrelevant.
Languishing in irrelevance has typically not been an Evangelical problem. Since the Wesleys, we have always been motivated by the imperative of bringing the Gospel to every person. To fulfill that mission, Evangelicals have always been pragmatic entrepreneurs. And as we have been quick to embrace new measures to move the Gospel forward, so we have been quick to toss aside tradition.
That’s unfortunate. Being rooted in tradition is the best corrective to diluting the Gospel in our persistent pursuit of relevance. But when we jettison tradition (which is in complete alignment with the modern spirit of our age) we are simply being arrogant and ignorant. Do we really think that we have a better understanding of the faith than Augustine, Luther, Wesley, or Isaac Watts? Can we in our relative comfort assert that our ideas of approaching God are superior to those who, in many cases, paid for their convictions through martyrdom? By jettisoning tradition wholesale, we are impoverishing ourselves.
A few years ago, when I was teaching at Huntington University, Mark Noll was the plenary speaker at a symposium on Christ-centered education. For many years, Noll taught Church history at Wheaton College. When he visited with us, he had been recently hired by Notre Dame University. In a seminar with the Huntington Faculty, Noll was asked how it was going since he was an Evangelical Protestant and Notre Dame is a Roman Catholic institution. He replied that Catholics have what Evangelicals need – roots with the historic Church, and Evangelicals have what Catholics need – a vibrant personal faith. I think his response is right where we need to be.
In his wonderful book on worship leadership called Worship Matters, Bob Kauflin writes a complete chapter on the necessity of holding relevance and rootedness in balance. I couldn’t agree more. The rich liturgical forms and hymns that we have inherited from two thousand years of church history would go a long way in helping us keep the Gospel pure and in deepening our faith. Let me give you some examples.
Most Evangelicals don’t recite historic creeds. We say our only creed is the Bible. Well, I grew up with that “creed” and I think that it’s a bit short-sighted. The ancient Church fathers who formulated the creeds did it with a great deal of “blood, sweat, and tears” based completely on scriptural revelation. All of the historic creeds are biblically faithful. If they weren’t, they would have been relegated to the historical trash heap of heresies. What if we took the time to recite an ancient creed like the Apostle’s or Nicene creeds, or maybe even the Te Deum every time we took Communion? For most of us, that would be monthly. I suggest that we would be amazed at the richness we would find in reciting those ancient creeds together.
Another traditional form that Evangelicals are averse to is set prayers. We don’t like other people putting words in our mouth or in our heart. Hmm… Most Evangelicals (aside from some Mennonites) have no problem reciting the pledge of allegiance to the flag. I did not grow up with high church liturgical forms and set prayers. But when our work schedules allow Diane and I begin our day with prayer based on a monastic daily service. It ends with this prayer, which we pray together: “Lord God, almighty and everlasting Father, you have brought me in safety to this new day: Preserve me with your mighty power that I may not fall into sin, nor be overcome by adversity; and in all I do direct me to the fulfilling of your purpose; through Jesus Christ my Lord. Amen.” It was written hundreds of years ago. It puts words in our mouths. But it is the fire in our hearts that makes it fresh every morning. We don’t need to be afraid of set forms or prayers if our personal relationship with Christ is strong and vital. And isn’t that what it means to be Evangelical in the first place?
Another way to stay rooted is to sing hymns, set to match the musical language of our people. Most hymns were conceived as poetry and then set to a tune. The music, and how we do it, is secondary– as long as it matches the essential mood of the text. It is the words that are enriching. Consider, for example, this seventeenth century hymn from Isaac Watts:
I’ll praise my Maker while I’ve breath,
And when my voice is lost in death,
Praise shall employ my nobler powers;
My days of praise shall ne’er be past,
While life, and thought, and being last,
Or immortality endures.
Happy the man whose hopes rely
On Israel’s God: He made the sky,
And earth, and seas, with all their train:
His truth for ever stands secure;
He saves th’oppressed, He feeds the poor,
And none shall find His promise vain.
The Lord has eyes to give the blind;
The Lord supports the sinking mind;
He sends the labr’ing conscience peace;
He helps the stranger in distress,
The widow, and the fatherless,
And grants the pris’ner sweet release.
It is said that John Wesley sang that hymn on his death bed.
There are inexhaustible treasures available for those who draw upon the riches of Church tradition.
THE IMPERATIVE OF RELEVANCE
To be relevant is to be connected to the surrounding culture in an appropriate and meaningful way. The Gospel is relevant to every culture and every age, for it is the Story of the Lord of time and the King of kings. Church leaders throughout time have demonstrated the timelessness of the Gospel and its limitless reach to every culture:
• Paul told the Athenians about their “unknown God” (Acts 17:22-31) and adapted his approach to be “all things to all people that [he] might win some.”
• Martin Luther was a reflection of his changing times and used the new technology of the printing press to spread his message.
• John Wesley’s innovation was street preaching where the common folk were and it was a scandal to the established church. He also strongly appealed to personal experience in an age where the importance of the individual was beginning to emerge.
• And what can we say about those who adapted song styles to carry the Gospel? There is a long line of those who helped to make the Gospel resonate through music of the culture: Martin Luther, the Wesleys, Moody & Sankey and all other revivalists, which leads us to today with modern Praise and Worship.
But all of these giants of the faith balanced relevance to the culture with faithfulness to the Gospel. May I suggest then, that we not pursue relevance for its own sake; that is simply being trendy. That’s a treadmill that will produce no real progress for the Church except disillusionment. Instead, let’s pursue “faithful relevance.” It is a concept that holds the two imperatives of a pure Gospel connecting with significance to the surrounding culture in dynamic tension. “Faithful relevance”:
• Communicates the Gospel without confusion. The Gospel is not distorted or diluted by accommodation to culture. The Gospel transcends culture. French philosopher Simone Weil has said, “To be always relevant, you have to say things that are eternal.” (Guiness, 105)
• Is local rather than franchised. During the 80’s and 90’s Evangelicals franchised their way of doing ministry based on successful mega-church models. Some of that is still occurring. Relevance can’t be franchised. Relevance is always local because localities are always unique.
• Balances tradition with innovation. Tradition is the best corrective to our cultures’ never-ending quest for the new. Traditional forms and substance can be given up-to-date clothing without diluting their essence.
• Seeks to find its place in the greater Story. One of modernism’s biggest flaws is its tendency to jettison the past, glorify the present, and overstate the future. In so doing modernism has no story, but is stuck in a self-centered whirlpool that has no destination. The Christian Story, on the other hand, has a history, a present, and certain future. With “faithful relevance” we will consider our part in the greater narrative and live accordingly.
In the end, we are called to be faithful carriers of the Gospel to the people in our time and community. The Incarnation is the most compelling claim for the cause of “faithful relevance:” “The Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, glory as of the only begotten from the Father, full of grace and truth.” (John 1:14 NASB) May we truly connect with our culture so that they may see Christ, fully, undiluted, beholding His glory – full of grace and truth.